I am now in the final home-stretch with our third baby, Yay! I am a mush of mixed emotions: excited, anxious, happy, grateful and scared at the same time.
When we had our Harperoo in 2011, everybody was just curious about how Super A would react. Most were optimistic that he would be great with her and vice versa while some hinted a more disparaging outlook. At times, this would get to me. But as always, never let negativity dictate your life's course because I am so happy to report that Super A turns out to be a great Big Brother. When he first saw Harperoo, he looked at her as if she was a gift.. like when I tell him, "I have something for you". I don't know if he understood the concept of having a sibling at that time but now, I can say with pride that he likes being a big brother.
He looks after her. When he hears her cry, he goes to her immediately. During a visit to Harperoo's pedia (Dr. Rudy Amatong, whom Super A just adores and calls Santa Claus) for ear piercing, the ear gun, by an unlucky force of nature, got locked on Harperoo's right ear and she was just screaming and crying like she never did before. Super A looked at Doc as if to say, "What did you do to my sister?" Doc responded, "She is okay" and remarked "Super A is affected". With each visit, Super A would usually linger on and wait for his jelly treats from Doc but right after the incident, he just stormed out of his clinic.
He shows affection in his own way. He likes his moments with her that if we catch him holding her hand or softly touching her forehead, he withdraws his gestures. It's as if he wants those moments to be just between the two of them. Although now, he is beginning to open up and show us displays of affection to Harperoo.
He is concerned of her well-being. When we had to change Harperoo's diaper outside our room and her tiny va-jay-jay showed, he took the diaper and covered it. This was one of those times when I can say that somehow Super A has matured.
I cannot count the number of times Harperoo would pull Super A's hair or grab his arms and pinch them hard because of "gigil", but Super A would just dismiss them because he knows that she is just playing with him.
I am so proud of how Super A is evolving into the person and the brother that he is. Even though he still has a long road ahead when it comes to language and communication development. The language of love for his sister (and soon to be sisters) is so heartening.
